Proceeding with a separation can be an incredibly scary and difficult time for any family. With conflicting emotions and worries about the future, it can be difficult to find a silver lining or to maintain a positive outlook throughout this period. However, by focusing on the past or your worries over your family, you are missing out on perhaps the most important opportunity for growth you will ever receive.
A period of separation opens up an opportunity for you to look ahead, and start planning and living the life you have always wanted to lead. Follow these simple tips to remain forward focused after a separation, and to quickly discover a happier version of the old you.
1. Seek Legal Advice
In order to move forward following a seperation, it is important to arrange a consultation with an experienced Family Lawyer. There are a number of legal requirements that need to be met when proceeding with a separation. Similarly, in order to file for divorce, if you decide to do so in the future, you will need to prove that a number of factors were met throughout the period of separation. These include the requirement that you have been separated for a period of 12 months or longer. As the definition of ‘separated’ can vary for those who for various reasons are remaining in the same home, it is important to seek the advice of an experience lawyer.
Discussing your specific circumstances with a family lawyer, ensures that you are informed throughout the process, and can focus on other areas of your life. If you do decide to then proceed with a divorce, you can enter the process fully aware of your rights and your obligations.
Consultation with an experienced lawyer, ensures that you will receive tailored legal advice and achieve a fair financial and property settlement.
2. Prioritise your Mental Health
Taking care of your mental health is essential when going through a separation. Finding positivity and moving forward throughout this difficult period, can only be achieved if you are in a strong mental state.
Seeking the assistance of a mental health professional can help those who are struggling with a separation, to move forward and remain focused and happy throughout a period of separation. Ending a relationship comes with unavoidable feelings of sadness and anxiety. By partnering with a mental health professional however, you can tackle your feelings head on, and remain clear in your vision for your exciting new future. If you would like additional professional support, speak to your GP about which option may be best for you.
3. Think of the Kids
Your kids are always your number one priority. A separation period can therefore bring considerable anxiety, over how your kids will cope with the changing nature of their family unit.
While a separation can be a confusing time for young children, there are many simple ways to ensure that your kids adjust to the change.
Start by always having open conversations with your kids. If possible, this should be alongside your former partner, to present a united front. If you and your partner cannot join to have this conversation, it is important to still speak positively about the other parent in front of your kids. Having stability in your children’s routine, can also help children adjust to the changes within their home life. If they will spend some time with each parent, explain how this will work in practical terms. Keeping your kids informed and sticking to their original routine where possible, allows you feel comfortable that your kids will be okay.
Going through a separation with your partner can be an emotionally difficult time. Fortunately, with so many support avenues available, it is possible to make it a positive and forward-focused time in your life.